Groom’s Survival Kit – Part 2 (Socks and Shoes)

Imagea WYou’ll be getting into your wedding dress and having your hair done, so you won’t see it: the groom’s changing room. As part of Bolt Photography, it’s what I witness all the time… and what I’ve seen would not reassure you.

It happens again and again– normally assertive, confident guys reduced to fumbling confusion when faced with a tuxedo rental bag. Part of the problem is obviously inexperience. Unless he’s George Clooney or James Bond, he probably doesn’t assemble a tuxedo on a regular basis. A lot of trust goes into the fitting process, because the person measuring him at the store won’t be with him in the changing room an hour before the ceremony.

As part of a groom’s survival kit, he needs to know what’s expected of him, and be prepared for the unexpected. Depending on the package he chooses, a groom might expect to have everything provided, including socks and shoes.


Here’s my tip: even if socks and shoes are provided, he should bring his own.


In fact, bring enough socks for everyone in the groom’s party. It may sound laughable, but I’ve seen it happen: a necessary pair of dark socks left out of a tuxedo bag, at a remote venue (most locations aren’t next door to a department store). Ever heard a roomful of guys brainstorm about coloring white socks with magic marker or shoe polish? Or covering their ankles with black electrical tape? I have.

If you’re the bride, you probably wouldn’t find such ponderings humorous at all on your carefully planned wedding day. So…yeah. He should bring his own socks!

As for bringing his own shoes, the reason should be obvious. If he’s a size 12 and the tux place provides a pair of size 10 patent leather shoes, he probably won’t be saving the last dance for you. He’ll be limping to the limo.



Audrey and Jason Bolt operate Bolt Photography in the Oklahoma City Metro area. To see examples of the Oklahoma weddings they photograph, please



Groom’s Survival Kit – Part 1


   It’s your “BIG DAY.” (I think you’ll agree, all-caps are no exaggeration).You’re prepared for the hectic hours leading up to the ceremony, but what about your groom?

If you’re lucky, you have someone to keep you on schedule during those final crucial hours. Probably someone female. In some ways, this leaves your groom and his groomsmen on their own. Scary thought?

When I work with my wife Audrey at Bolt Photography, I usually end up in a room full of guys wearing boxer shorts and baffled expressions. It goes something like this:


“What’s this?”

“I think that goes in these holes.”

“Why doesn’t this fit?”

“I don’t know, but I think it’s supposed to be black. Not white.”


And so on. I don’t intend this as an indictment of tuxedo rental places, but in my considerable experience, there’s almost always something wrong with what’s supposed to be delivered. And out of the items that do show up, there’s usually a woeful lack of explanation regarding assembly.

I thought, why not help these poor souls? A little planning could ease their stress, and possibly yours, by extension. So here’s the first of a few entries concerning my very own “Groom’s Survival Kit”. And the first item I have to recommend? Safety pins. The big ones.

With the advent of disposable diapers, these have ceased to be ubiquitous–but you should still be able to find them, if you look. Be it cummerbunds suited for sumo wrestlers, missing vest straps, or actual rents in the fabric of tuxedo jackets, there always seems to be a moment when I think, “If they only had a safety pin.” Or two or three!

I know it may seem like an obvious recommendation, but do yourself a favor, and don’t just think about it. Make it a reality. Plan ahead, and you’ll be marching down the aisle at the appointed time… not waiting for the groom’s brother to run to the store in a panic.




Audrey and Jason Bolt operate Bolt Photography in the Oklahoma City area. To see examples of the Oklahoma brides they photograph, please